I heard a very interesting statement not too long ago that really made me think and it has stuck with me for sometime now… this person made a statement saying “you can measure a person’s height, you can measure how high a person can jump, you can even measure how fast they run, but you CAN NOT measure a person’s heart. What that person meant and what I got from that statement is that you never know what’s in a person’s heart and just how hard someone will work for something.
This statement stuck with me because the more I thought about it I realized how true it was. You never know how bad someone wants something in life and how far they will go to achieve it. We hear everyday how people reach these amazing goals or reach these amazing heights in life. We hear how hard they work and how they just will not give up. The amazing thing that most people don’t realize is that they are no different then we are.
The only difference between those people and the people that don’t reach their goals or their dreams in life is one thing… and that one thing is a WINNING ATTITUDE!
They have the attitude of NO FEAR and that they are going to WIN…they have in their mind that they will win NO MATTER WHAT!
Unfortunately most of us let our circumstances or others set the bar on how far we will go in life. We also let fear dictate us. Fear is real. Don’t let anyone tell you different. We must learn how to use FEAR to our advantage. By letting FEAR rule us we don’t win or reach any of our goals, instead we set unrealistic limitations on ourselves. We let our own minds tell us what we can and cannot do before we even try to accomplish the task we have in front of us.
I have the honor of knowing someone personally that has that winning attitude. He is a terrific 11year old boy named Dakota. He is actually my nephew. He weighs in at 60 pounds and is maybe 4”3”. His coach and fellow players nicknamed him “Mini Me”. Last year “Mini Me” took home the award for the most courage. His coach told me he wishes that every one of his players had the heart and commitment that he has. Dakota gives 110% in every game and he has a winning attitude. He does not let fear stop him from playing the game he loves against kids twice his size. He may be small but I definitely look up to him when it comes to living a life without limitations.
Just recently I was asked to speak to a football team about positive attitude and on how to develop a winning attitude. It’s a team that’s struggling with winning personally within and on the football field. I shared with them several stories of my own personal struggles in dealing with defeat and winning in life. I also shared with them principles that I teach to business professionals in my “Get off Your Attitude” seminars.
I would like to share with you the same principles that I discussed with the team that I think can help anyone create a winning attitude.
The first principle I shared with them is that you must first choose to be Positive. You must develop the habits of thinking, talking and acting positive. We all have the choice of how we will handle the day or any situation that we confront. It’s a very simple choice. Are you going to be positive or negative? Charles Swindoll stated it best in one of his quotes, “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” So if you respond to what happens to you in life in a positive manner that is the first step to being a winner.
The second principle I shared with them is to be Honest. You must first learn to be honest with yourself. You must be able to admit to yourself when you’re doing a great job and giving a 100%. Only you know deep down in your heart if you’re being truthful to others and yourself. You must have a since of integrity to reach great heights in your life. Honesty is key in growth in maturity.
The third principle is Commitment. When you decide to take on a project or participate in anything in life you must be committed all the way until it is completed. Your commitment to anything first starts in the planning, preparation and you must be committed to everything leading up to that moment. Once you are prepared give that certain goal or task the 110% percent that it deserves. You should stay positive and never think about quitting. That is where true success is found.
The fourth principle is Faith. You must have Faith in God, yourself and in others to reach any success in life. You must be able to put your trust in those areas in your life. Julio Melara states, “When you do what you can do, God will do what you can’t!” That is what faith is all about. You must have the attitude that faith and trust are needed to succeed.
The last principle is you must Believe. You must believe you will win in anything before you even attempt it. Sun Tzu stated in the book “The Art of War” that “Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.” I personally think that most of us try to win in life with the wrong mindset and attitude. We must think positive and get rid of the “stinking thinking” I like to call it. We must learn to stay focused on positive thoughts and know in our hearts and minds that we are equipped with the right talents, gifts and that we can achieve anything we put our minds to.
By letting go of the negative limitations in our minds and allowing ourselves to see the victory first, this habit will help us reach great success. Whatever great idea or passion you have in your heart. I inspire you to go for it. You will experience life in a whole other area than you are used to now. Make sure you break the old habits and created new ones. Get out of your comfort zone and be the winner that you know you are It’s what you think, not what others think, that matters!
So remember, always be positive in your actions and honest with yourself and others and remember to give 110% percent in everything you do. Have Faith in God and Believe with all your heart and mind you are a winner, and you will then develop a winning attitude and you will win in life.
If there is one quote that I can suggest for you to live your life by is the one by Winston Churchill..”NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP”!!!
“Remember that it is up to you to choose everyday to Get off Your Attitude and to create a positive lifestyle for yourself and others.” Ryan C. Lowe